For husbands who want to do better

Stop helping.
Start owning.

The app that shifts mental load from her to you. Pick your departments, own them completely, and stop waiting to be told what to do.

One-time payment. No subscription required. Partner joins free.

The mental load isn't about tasks

It's about who notices, remembers, plans, and tracks everything that keeps a household running.

"Just tell me what to do"

Every time you say this, you're making her the project manager. She has to notice the problem, plan the solution, assign the task, and verify completion.

Helping isn't the same as owning

You can do dishes every night and still not share the mental load. If she has to remember to ask you, track if you did it, and notice when it's needed — she's still carrying it.

This is why marriages struggle

It's not the big fights. It's the slow erosion of resentment from a thousand small moments where she felt alone in running the household.

71%
of household mental load is carried by women

The difference is who carries it in their head

"Helping"

Waiting to be told. Still her responsibility.

  • "What do you need me to do?"
  • "You didn't tell me we were out of milk"
  • "I did what you asked"
  • "Just make me a list"
  • She tracks, you execute
  • She's still the project manager

Owning

You notice, remember, plan, execute. It's yours.

  • "I noticed we're low on milk"
  • "I scheduled the dentist appointments"
  • "I've got groceries handled this week"
  • "The kids' lunches are prepped"
  • You track, you execute
  • She doesn't have to think about it

How iOwnIt works

Pick your departments. Get daily prompts. Own them completely.

1

Pick Your Departmets

Choose departments to fully own — Groceries, Daily Chores, School Stuff, Medical. Not tasks. Whole domains of responsibility.

2

Get Daily Prompts

Every morning, see what needs doing across your departments. Items sit there until done. No gamification, no streaks — just quiet persistence.

3

Own It Completely

Notice what's needed, plan how to handle it, get it done. Full responsibility — the mental work, the planning, and the execution. She doesn't have to think about it.

4

The App Nags, Not Her

Persistent reminders until it's done. She doesn't set them. She doesn't see them. The accountability comes from the app.

Full Ownership Model

Beyond task-splitting

Most household apps just split tasks. iOwnIt shifts the entire mental load — not just the doing, but the noticing, remembering, and planning too.

True ownership means handling all three layers of responsibility. Not waiting to be told. Not just helping when asked. Full accountability from start to finish.

Notice

See what needs doing before someone tells you. The empty fridge, the upcoming appointment, the permission slip that came home.

Plan

Figure out how to handle it on your own. Make the list, schedule the time, research what's needed. Don't wait for instructions.

Execute

Get it done. Buy the groceries, book the appointment, submit the form. Then close the loop — put things away, follow through.

Use it your way

Start solo if you want to work on yourself. Or use it together with your partner to divide departmets fairly.

Solo Mode

You want to own your responsibilities — on your own.

  • All departments available
  • Daily prompts and tracking
  • Weekly summary
  • No partner involvement required
  • The app nags you, not her

Simple pricing

No subscriptions required. Pay once, own it forever. Partner always joins free.

Free Trial

$0

7 days • no card required

  • All features unlocked
  • Full household mode
  • Unlimited departments
  • Partner can join
  • No commitment
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Solo

$3

one-time payment

  • All departments
  • Daily prompts
  • Weekly summary
  • Progress tracking
  • Works forever
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Household Pro

$3/mo

cancel anytime

  • Everything in Household
  • AI-powered suggestions
  • Weekly AI coach
  • Advanced analytics
  • Guided reassigning
  • Priority support
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AI that carries the load

We're building AI features that help you notice, remember, and anticipate — so you don't have to carry it all in your head.

Smart Suggestions

"You usually buy milk on Wednesdays. Running low?" The app learns your patterns and prompts you before she has to.

Natural Language

"Add diapers to groceries" — just say it or type it. No menus, no tapping. The AI figures out where it goes.

Photo Intelligence

Snap a photo of the fridge. AI tells you what's running low. No more "I didn't know we were out of eggs."

Weekly AI Coach

"Dishes slipped on Thursday. What got in the way?" Gentle accountability that helps you improve without judgment.

Want to see it in action?

Demo account: demo@example.com / demo

You can also create your own account to test. The demo resets every 24h.

Try the Demo App

Questions

Does my wife have to use the app?
No. Solo mode is designed for husbands who want to do better on their own. She doesn't set it up, she doesn't get reminders, she doesn't manage it. The accountability comes from the app, not her.

If you both want to use it (Household mode), she can join for free — but she only sees her own departments. No cross-partner nagging. Each person owns their stuff independently.
What if we want to switch who owns what?
That's what reassign sessions are for. Life changes — new job, new baby, new circumstances. Household mode includes built-in sessions where you sit together and reassign departments. Weekly, monthly, or whenever you need it.
Is this a subscription?
Solo and Household are one-time payments. Pay once, use forever. No recurring charges.

Household Pro ($3/month) is optional and adds AI features. You can use the full app without it. Cancel anytime if you do subscribe.
Why "departments" instead of tasks?
Tasks are what you do. Departments are what you own. When you own "Groceries," you own the whole responsibility — noticing what's low, making the list, planning the trip, doing the shopping, putting things away. Not just "pick up milk when she texts you."

True ownership means handling the mental work, the planning, and the execution. Not just the final step when someone reminds you.
What makes this different from a shared to-do list?
Shared lists still require someone to manage them — usually her. She adds items, she tracks completion, she reminds you.

iOwnIt puts the noticing and remembering on YOU. The app generates your daily list based on what you own. She doesn't see it. She doesn't manage it. If you don't do it, the app persists — not her.
Can this fix my marriage?
No app can fix a marriage. This is a tool, not a therapist. It helps with the day-to-day logistics of sharing household responsibility.

The real work — communication, empathy, understanding — that's on you. But if part of the problem is that you keep forgetting, don't notice things, or need to be managed... this can help with that part.

The nagging comes from the app, not her.

Stop waiting to be told what to do. Pick your departmets. Own them completely.